The Qur'an never mentions this quote anywhere and Al-Ghazzali could not conceivably make such a mistake. The correct Quranic quote is:
 O ye who believe! Let not your riches or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. If any act thus, the loss is their own. [Qur'an 63:9]

B. Claud Field says: "In the Koran it is written, "Men should have the upper hand over women,"

The Qur'an does not say that anywhere and Al-Ghazzali would not make such a glaring error. However it does say:

Men are the protectors and maintainers [qawwauma] of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the
other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in
(the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and
ill-conduct, admonish them (first). (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to
obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). [Qur'an 4:34]

    Narrated Hakim bin Hizam

    The Prophet said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand (i.e. he who gives in charity is better than him
    who takes it). One should start giving first to his dependents. And the best object of charity is that which is given
    by a wealthy person (from the money which is left after his expenses). And whoever abstains from asking others
    for some financial help, Allah will give him and save him from asking others, Allah will make him self-sufficient."

Comment: This is not in the Urdu translation of Kimiya'e Saadat, nor is it in the Ihya ulum-al-din. Clearly then, Al-Ghazzali did not say this. For some reason, however, Claud Field has inserted this statement into his English translation called "The Alchemy of Happiness." The Ihya ulum-ul-din says:

(3) [The] third harm of marriage is to keep away family members and children from the remembrance of God, to encourage them to hoard up wealth and to search for objects of pride and boast[ing]. Whatever thing diverts attention from God is a cause of misfortune. Ibrahim-b[en]-Adham said , "He who keeps sticking to the waist of his wife gets no benefit. These are the benefits and harms of marriage. [Whether] to marry is better or not, depends on the personal character of [the] man. These benefits and harms are by way of advice and they show [the correct] path. Marriage is good for [the] one who is not diverted from the remembrance of God and from the path of honesty and virtue. In the [opposite] case, marriage is bad for him. If there is [a] necessity of controlling sexual passion, [then] marriage is necessary. Jesus Christ did not marry in spite of his high and lofty position as a Prophet. The Holy Prophet, placed in the highest rank among men, took several wives and yet he did not not forget God for a moment. Even he [received] revelations at the time when he was in the same bed with his wife Ayesha. From Vol II Section 1 Harms of Marriage: Ihya ulum-id-din by Al-Ghazzali, translated by Fazlul Karim

D. Claud Field says, "Thirdly, a man should condescend to his wife's recreations and amusements, and not attempt to check them. The Prophet himself actually on one occasion ran races with his young wife Ayesha. The first time he beat her, and the second time she beat him. Another time he held her up in his arms that she might look at some performing Negroes. In fact, it would be difficult to find anyone who was so kind to his wives as the Prophet was to his. Wise men have said, "A man should come home smiling and eat what he finds and not ask for anything he does not find." However, he should not be over-indulgent, lest his wife lose her respect for him. If he sees anything plainly wrong on her part, he should not ignore but rebuke it, or he will become a laughing stock.

The Ihya ulum-id-din says:

(3) Make play and sport with the wife [even] after bearing hardships given by her. This gives pleasure to the wife. The Prophet used to joke with his wives and [take up] their levels in manual labour. The Prophet ran races with Ayesha. One day Ayesha won the race and on another day, the Prophet won it and said, "This is the revenge of that day." The Prophet said, "The most perfect believer in faith is one who is the best of them in good conduct." The Prophet said, "The best of you is one who treats his wife [the best] among you." Hazrat Omar in spite of his sternness said, "Stay in the house with your wife like a boy. When the wife demands things from her husband, he should treat [it like] like a man.".The wise Loqman said, "A wise man should live in his house like a boy and when she stays among people, he should stay like a man." There is a Hadis Qudsi, "God dislikes a man who is stern to his family and self-conceited." The Prophet said to Jaber, "Have you not found a virgin to marry? You could have played with her and she with you." A desert woman described her husband after his death, "By God, he was fond of sports and when there was darkness, he remained silent. From Vol II Section 3 Rules After Marriage: Ihya ulum-id-din by Al-Ghazzali, translated by Fazlul Karim